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Understanding Difficult Clients
These individuals can be divided into two larger categories that we have non-scientifically named 'aggressive' and 'passive' for our own convenience. (Hey, we're writing this, it is getting far along in the workshop and we are sure you are too tired to memorize Latin names and equally sure that having more impressive-sounding categories wouldn't help anyway.)
Let's take the "passive" type first. In reviewing research for this section (yes, we don't just make this stuff up. What? Are you surprised?) we read a lot on "passive-aggressive" personalities. From our experience, we think that misses the point with a lot of the clients we know. Yes, there definitely are those people who will miss appointments because "You can't tell me what to do!" and they are going to show you, but in most cases, we have not found that to be the issue.
The 'passive' difficult clients, in the words of one experienced counselor,
Spirit Lake President, Dr. Erich Longie explains it this way,
"What I see in about half of the people that fit the profile you just described is that they have what I call a Non-working Lifestyle.Everything is a habit. People who work, plan their life around their work. I see that all the time -
People who have a non-working lifestyle are just the opposite.
This really upsets some staff members because, from their point of view, those are such trivial reasons. The staff member, though, is looking at life from their own perspective. Your first step in having an impact with these individuals is understanding their perspective. It is not passive-aggressive behavior to get back at you. It is nothing personal. This is the habit, the way they have gotten used to living. To be an effective employee, of course, that lifestyle will have to change."
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