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Lashing out at others this includes. Hitting, Screaming, Swearing, Taking toys away from others, Crying. We try to redirect the child to a less stressful situation, We get down at eye level and we talk about what it is that made the child feel that way and what we can do to make it not happen again, Sometimes we need to comfort  the child by holding them. There are also some instances when we just ignore them.

  The biggest issue with behavior problem today would be a learned aggression type behavior, like when a child with a learning disability watches a parent in the act of domestic violence and when that child sees that they don't know any better and thinks that is right and then begins to do that at school or in apublic place because they think its ok.

i feel the biggest behavior problems in early childhood is as follows

the child comes with no knowledge to grasp the concept that when you hit or kick that it hurts.

not knowing how share

I cant think of anything at the moment- our classroom is postive when it comes to behavior problems, always consistent and parents are well involved with their children in our class.

I think the biggest behavior problems in older children are mostly lack of work ethic. I know teachers who don't give homework because, they say, no one turns it in. Other teachers tell me about having five or six kids in each class who just don't do their work. The teachers pass out tests, worksheets and the students just don't even bother to do the work or turn them back in. They don't even try at all.

One teacher at our school counts the papers every time he collects them and if there are not the same number he passed out, has to go through and see who did not turn one in. This same teacher used to give homework but was told he could not count it in students grades because, "Some students don't do it and then they would fail."

Well, no #$^ !

I saw other topics on here about getting a job. How are these kids going to get jobs when they grow up if they have never learned to work?!!

I used to teach middle school and what I found to be most effective in most situations is to treat the student just like I would another adult. This does not mean grabbing him by the arm or threatening to call his mother. I would say something like,
"Raymond, I really don't appreciate you yelling out in class that Algebra is really boring. It may be boring to you but I happen to like it and I worked really hard last night trying to think of a good way to explain these properties. I certainly expect some of you in this class to go to college. There is NO ONE in here that I would say is not college material. And, when you are in college, you are going to be expected to know Algebra."

I said something like this to someone probably twice a day every day that I taught. I think a couple of things helped me. I really DID put a lot of effort into putting together lesson plans, lectures and so on, so the students knew I was being honest about that. CONSISTENCY. I never gave up. Some of the other staff members would tease me about this. I corrected every instance of rude behavior. I didn't just let anything 'pass'. BEING HUMAN. For example, if I happened to know that the student was having a really hard time, for example, was going to a parole hearing after class, and then I would just say, "Jason, let's you and I have a talk after class." In that case, I knew the student probably just needed to talk and so, knowing he would have that opportunity after class relieved his stress during the class. Also, it gave the 'tough guy' appearance of being talked to by the teacher for acting out while filling his need to have someone to confess that he was really worried he was going to get sent up for a year or more.

In that situation, lecturing the student about college plans would just make it far worse.

I guess this points to one last thing - you need to know your students, know about their lives. So many teachers don't.

I think people don't want to admit what the biggest problem is. You hear parents complaining about the school, there child and everyone else but then we all know that child's parents are both alcoholics. Don't thye think that when they are dirinking and hollering around that affects their kids? Or the man goes and hits the woman in front of the kids and the kids are acting up at school the next day and that never gets brought up.

All of these workshops you people do are good and I think you should keep doing them, but some people need to see their ownn cause in all of this, too and need to address those things.

Why dok kids sometimes have bad behavior?  My younger brother has mean behavior.  Why is that?